Thinking back, I find it almost endearing that my emblazoned diary was a tome of all my unrequited love yearnings, wanting nothing more than to find acceptance thorough love.
Problem is, as much as I like to think of that as a thing of the past, reality tells me that things haven’t changed.
Having met someone I genuinely liked who liked me in return, I felt like I was finally living a fairy tale. I’ve never been afraid of putting myself out there, but at what cost?
Dating online has made its way into the fabric of normal courtship and has since monopolized the market. From online dating to dating apps, the detached forms of forming connections have all but ruined ones chances at finding deep connections.
And while I can’t speak for previous generations of daters, seems modern dating has become a meandering processes of head games, dejection and waiting around for the next best thing.
Is it possible to create a meaningful connection without feeling completely worthless and insane?
Then there are the headaches that come any time I get to the point of explaining my exes to cismen or ciswomen. You learn a lot about yourself and what to look for without having to send another billion texts about why it’s you, not them.
I’m cisgender, but many of my former partners are not – they identify as gender non-conforming or transgender. On the one hand, it is helpful in learning about yourself and the world, because you get the opportunity to meet a lot of different kinds of people. These resources have helped me out a ton because they help me think critically about being a good partner and they remind me that good partners exist – you just have to know where to find them. (I know it’s new age-y, but it’s true.) Better yet, these resources are not steeped in tired stereotypes about men and women, which is obviously great, especially if you date either, both, or neither.
Very few single people are content with just courting one person at a time.